Who is your friend? Do you have a best friend? Do you consider everyone you talk to a friend? I remember when I was 10 years old, I told my family that I had 100 friends. I was boasting about how popular I was in middle school, to have so many friends. Without hesitation my family quickly told me that I had a handful rather than 100. At first being the middle schooler I was, I was mad! Then when I think back to it now, I probably had 10 real friends. We have a lot of acquaintances in life, but how many genuine friends do we have?
Friendship is rare these days. Friendship can be hard and frustrating at times. But friendship is so comforting when it is genuine. Friendship is a priceless gift from God. The Bible tells us in Proverbs 13:20 “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm”. When you make friends, make sure to choose them wisely. The well-known saying is you are the company you keep. You may be wise, but if you have foolish friends, they will eventually bring you down with them, Proverbs 22:24-25.
Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”1 Corinthians 15:33
We become, to an extent, like our friends more over the years. We tend to adopt their values, sayings, and mannerisms. When you see your friends next time, pay close attention to see if they pick up on your attitudes and mannerisms. I watched it when many of my friends use my language. Yes, when I say my language, I mean the words I say most often. My language consists of sugar, deliciousness, and many other weird combos. Its baffling to see the influence you can have on others. If friendship is so life-changing, then how important it is for us to find like-minded friends. When you were younger, did you hang out with a bad influence of friends? Did your parents say you couldn’t do this because so and so were going to be there? God tells us that we will one day become like our friends. It is vital to understand who your friends are and what intentions they have, Proverbs 16:28.
Evaluate what you look for in a friend. Do you care about appearances, money, personality, or humor? What you should be seeking out in a genuine friend is loyalty. A loyal friend will be there for you through good and bad times. A true friend will be there no matter what happens in life. If you get a promotion; your friend is waiting to congratulate you. If a loved one passes, your friend is right by your side to be a shoulder to cry on. Proverbs 17:17; “A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for a time of adversity”.
Friendship is not a contract; the relationship is not set for a specific period of time. Remember to pick your friends wisely and surround yourself with like-minded individuals. For we know that Jesus is our glorious king and our greatest friend.